Delayed ejaculation is a common sexual health issue and there is no need to be embarrassed about it.
Ejaculation is the release of semen from the penis following sexual climax. Ejaculation usually happens simultaneously with orgasm, but it is important to note that orgasm and ejaculation are two different processes and some men experience an orgasm even though they don't ejaculate.
It is also important to remember that having an orgasm or ejaculation is not necessary in order to enjoy your sexual activity, it is not necessary in order to please your partner, it is not necessary in order to have a great sex life and be completely satisfied.
Delayed ejaculation can have a major impact on a man's emotional well-being. It is common for men to feel less confident, frustrated, ashamed and embarrassed. Additionally, it can greatly affect his relationship and sexual encounters. Their partner may be worried about doing something wrong or not being attractive enough in order for him to ejaculate. Therefore counselling and sex therapy is often suggested in order to address these issues.
Definition of Delayed Ejaculation
Delayed ejaculation is also known as retarded ejaculation. It is when a man experiences persistent delay or absence of orgasm and ejaculation, despite adequate sexual stimulation, erection and desire to orgasm. Often a man can still orgasm when masturbating or with oral stimulation, just not with penetrative sex.
Contributing Factors of Delayed Ejaculation
There are 4 suggested causes of delayed ejaculation:
1. Emotional, psychological or relationship problems:
2. Organic Causes are:
3. Pharmacological Side Effects:
4. Idiosyncratic Masturbatory Style/Desensitisation of the penis through habituation:
Treatment of Delayed Ejaculation
Delayed ejaculation is difficult to treat.
Treatment may include:
Please consult your doctor if you want to modify or avoid medication associated with delayed ejaculation.
Sex Therapy/Counselling for delayed ejaculation
Sexual Health Australia is a confidential counselling service, specialised in sexual health and relationship issues. We have experienced sex therapists and relationship counsellors who offer counselling and support for men with delayed ejaculation and their partners.
We offer individual and/or couple's counselling. Face to face counselling is offered in Sydney CBD and phone counselling is offered nationally.
We recognize the importance of providing support for partners of men who are suffering from delayed ejaculation, since we understand when in a relationship this often becomes a couple's issue. When in a relationship, a co-operative couple will benefit more from treatment.
Sex therapy for delayed ejaculation may include some of the following:
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