Performance Anxiety

Performance AnxietyPerformance anxiety is when a vicious cycle is established, whereby anxiety about a repeated episode of sexual performance failure is experienced whenever a man commences or even thinks about sexual activity. It occurs when an occasional episode of inadequate sexual performance becomes an expected outcome of each subsequent sexual event.

The more anxious he is, the worse his performance becomes.

Performance anxiety is extremely common in men with Erectile Dysfunction and Ejaculatory Problems, but can also be present in men with other sexual issues. Especially in modern days, where intercourse is also seen as a means for pleasure, much more seems to be expected from a man, which in turn may magnify his anxiety.

Unrealistic expectations

Many men and/or their partners seem to have unrealistic expectations and expect sexual fantasy type of events in their bedroom. These expectations can in turn exacerbate the problem, since men compare their own performance with these expectations and feel inadequate and disappointed.

Common Sexual Myths are:

  • Sexual encounters and intercourse should just go automatically - NOT TRUE
  • Only the man should initiate sex - NOT TRUE
  • Sufficient sexual thoughts should always make the penis erect without direct sexual stimulation - NOT TRUE
  • Both partners should achieve an orgasm every time and simultaneously - NOT TRUE
  • There is no sex without a hard erection - NOT TRUE
  • Men should be ready and able to last all night every time - NOT TRUE

 

 

 

 

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