The Golden Rule to Re-Romanticize your Relationship for Valentine

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The Golden Rule to Re-Romanticize your Relationship for Valentine’s Day!

Before diving straight into re-romanticizing your relationship, let’s start with what the magic formula is to a successful relationship in general. Well, there are three secret ingredients, and these are; ‘Filled Needs’, ‘Understanding’, and ‘Meaningful Friendship’.

So firstly, what is meant by these ‘filled needs’? Well it is important that most of your needs and your partner’s needs are filled within your relationship. These needs can be emotional, physical, spiritual, social, or security. In order to have these needs filled, you need to do two things: 1) make your own needs known to your partner and 2) discover your partner’s needs.

The second secret ingredient, ‘Understanding’, is really about trying to step into your partner’s shoes in order to really understand where your partner is coming from. As I often say, it is not about how many times you fight, but it is about what the outcome is. In order to successfully argue or fight, you need to move away from blaming each other, towards understanding each other. You could do this by really listening and by expressing understanding and really trying to see it from their point of view. And remember, understanding your partner is not the same as agreeing with him/her.

Then, it is also important that there is a meaningful friendship between the two of you. Your relationship will have this meaningful friendship if you support each other, care for one another, and share life experiences together. But remember, not because you have to, but because you want to.

So, now that Valentine’s Day is just around the corner, what can you do to re-romanticize your relationship? As people always say: ‘You have to treat others, the way you want to be treated’. Well, certainly NOT in relationships!!!

In relationships the Golden Rule is: ‘Treat your partner the way he/she wants to be treated!!

So for example, you have always dreamt about getting red roses for Valentine’s Day, but for your partner the most romantic gift imaginable is gold class movie tickets. So on Valentine’s Day your partner surprises you with these movie tickets, and will you be as happy as you can be?? No!!

In short, it is about stepping into your partner’s shoes, understanding your partner, and thinking about their needs, to then come to the conclusion that in order to make your partner the happiest person on the planet, you need to give your partner what they want most. And I am not just talking about gifts here, but about their needs in general, such as; their needs in the bedroom, their needs to be listened to, their needs to be cared for and their needs to feel loved. Hopefully your partner will do the same for you, and you will live happily ever after!

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